Comments on: Online Dating: Separating Fact from Fiction

By: Kim

Kim — Sun, 11 May 2008 08:33:54 +0000

I recently joined http://www.love-boat.net and I like it because it’s 100% free so members (including me) tend to exchange more messages and visit more profiles because there are no limits, no expensive credits to buy and stuff…

By: Rick Daniels

Rick Daniels — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 20:46:12 +0000

I am one of those guys that is looking for both a terrific physical relationship AND a healthy, long lasting emotional relationship. I have found that most of the women on this particular site are extremely aggressive physically, and all of them on the first date!!! By the way, I’m a pretty average looking guy, albeit with a great deal of Charisma-(inherited from my father). I know that most guys won’t complain, but it seems odd to me? I went on this site to meet a “Nice” woman with similar challenges with kids, life etc. I’m not giving up yet, for there are just as many nutty people in the non- virtual dating game as there are in it.
Thanks for all of your guidance. Are you still single?? You’re are very attractive, and funny!! Cheers
Rick

By: Susan

Susan — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 17:28:04 +0000

Katie: Words of inspiration, thank you!

Barnschop: Online dating definitely is a great way to “meet” a lot of people at once. It’s also nice to know men can equally be deceived online. Wait, that didn’t come out quite right — I mean, it seems women are always looked at as such fragile creatures, which we can be, but both sexes are taking a chance and putting themselves out there online. BTW, thank you for confirming that men do want relationships. Always good for us ladies to hear…

Ethan: I’m glad you found the post and comments here to be “great”! Goodness, come back again, won’t you?? I’ll check out the book. It’s always good to see a handsome, smart, presumably literate man who graduated from U of M (I’m class of ’90) put his skills and training to good use. I’m guessing the author is also a former online dater who made it to the married world! Again, hope for all of us.

By: Ethan Meadow

Ethan Meadow — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 06:54:58 +0000

Susan thanks for the great article. I’m also happy to see all the comments on this post. Obviouslly you’ve hit a cord with people in the online dating world.

I might also recommend a book from Myles Reed, online dating expert, called “Fishing for Love on the Net”. I’d love to see a review from you about this book. Myles has really done some fantastic work on creating a helpful book for online dating. Anyone who has been through it or is thinking about checking online dating out would find this book very helpful.

Great advice here Susan. Keep up the thoughtful work.

By: Katie

Katie — Sat, 24 Nov 2007 01:38:50 +0000

Susan,
The story of your mystery man gave me chills. I believe in angels and it sounds like you got a visit from one. A beautiful, kind man drops into your life, inspires you to pursue something you obviously love, and then disappears far, far away, never to be heard from again. OK, so maybe he wasn’t your angel, but I couldn’t help but think how amazing it was that you met someone who made such a difference in your life and helped you to find your dream, in what I am assuming was a very short time. I know women who have been married for decades to men who haven’t inspired them to do or be anything. You received a great gift from your mystery man, Susan. A gift that all of us reading your words now get to benefit from. What a great story.

By: barnschop

barnschop — Fri, 23 Nov 2007 03:37:22 +0000

I love the concept of online dating, just wish it had been around when I was much younger though. How incredible that you can look at so many potential mates in such a short time. You can chat up three of four at the time without others getting jealous and then sort out one or two to meet for a real date.

Ladies, men are after sex, this is true. Now how many men go out seeking a wife, non did I here the reply? If that is so why are so many men married. Fact is girls that men are wanting a relainship, just that they do not know it yet.

Am I male or female, young or old, good looking or ugly. Without a photo of me can you tell, you are women and need a photo, well men are Shallow Hals and scan women online by photo. Remember girls that men can fall victim to online deviants and no photo might indicate you are one!!!!!

By: Susan

Susan — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 23:30:20 +0000

Katie: he was handsome and incredibly sweet. I’m not sure about his love of kids; he asked about mine, which was important, but we didn’t get much further. But in the end he moved far away — like real far away. Like across the world far away and chose not to keep in touch with me. That really sucked — for me at least — although of course his loss! Silly men. I still think about him though and wonder how he’s doing.

And, yes, it’s all true. Truth is stranger than fiction…I think that was God’s/the Universe’s way of pushing me to be a writer! But, hey, God/Universe, could you send a nice man my way, too??

Jensen: thanks for the link. I took the survey myself (folks, no obligation to do so or more of them).

By: Katie

Katie — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 21:22:00 +0000

If you tell me he was also handsome, sweet, and loves kids I’m either going to hate you or not believe anything you write!

By: Jensen

Jensen — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 19:47:48 +0000

I ran into an interesting survey about online dating that is worth checking out. It’s called “Is online dating now accepted?”

By: Susan

Susan — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 14:34:24 +0000

Oh, hey, Katie. I meant to tell you the juggler and the inspiration for part of my novel are one in the same. So you can tuck that nugget away for when you read the book when it’s published — hopefully someday!