Comments on: So, Susan, whatever happened with online dating? http://susancourtad.com/2008/02/03/so-susan-whatever-happened-with-online-dating/ Real writing for real life. Wed, 04 Nov 2009 18:01:06 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: The Case of the Missing Blogger « One-Woman Show http://susancourtad.com/2008/02/03/so-susan-whatever-happened-with-online-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-859 The Case of the Missing Blogger « One-Woman Show Wed, 05 Mar 2008 05:06:38 +0000 http://onewomanshow.wordpress.com/?p=369#comment-859 [...] working, mothering, writing (sort of), reading, and living, I continued getting to know the man I began dating in January. I’ll call him Coach, since he spent a number of years coaching high school basketball. Coach [...] [...] working, mothering, writing (sort of), reading, and living, I continued getting to know the man I began dating in January. I’ll call him Coach, since he spent a number of years coaching high school basketball. Coach [...]

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]]> By: Susan http://susancourtad.com/2008/02/03/so-susan-whatever-happened-with-online-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-857 Susan Wed, 27 Feb 2008 01:25:56 +0000 http://onewomanshow.wordpress.com/?p=369#comment-857 Lisa, thanks for sharing your experiences. Honestly, I don't know what to say except that the whole love/relationships thing -- whether it happens online or off -- is just timing and luck! I view online dating purely as a way to meet people, and I never felt this big "shame" that many people feel about it, which I'd like to think helped me keep some perspective when I, too, saw friends having success when I didn't. So who knows? And even though I'm not personally a fan of e-Harmony, I'm glad it worked for your friend. Hopefully there won't have to be a 5th hubby! Lisa, thanks for sharing your experiences. Honestly, I don’t know what to say except that the whole love/relationships thing — whether it happens online or off — is just timing and luck! I view online dating purely as a way to meet people, and I never felt this big “shame” that many people feel about it, which I’d like to think helped me keep some perspective when I, too, saw friends having success when I didn’t. So who knows? And even though I’m not personally a fan of e-Harmony, I’m glad it worked for your friend. Hopefully there won’t have to be a 5th hubby!

]]> By: Lisa http://susancourtad.com/2008/02/03/so-susan-whatever-happened-with-online-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-856 Lisa Wed, 27 Feb 2008 00:00:57 +0000 http://onewomanshow.wordpress.com/?p=369#comment-856 One more thing. Same thing happened to me 3 years ago. I dropped out of all of the online sites. I was finished. A couple of days later I get an e-mail from a man who seems perfect for me. He was transferring to my town and wanted to meet people before he got here. He was into theatre, like me. He is a musician, actor, singer, composer and has a terrific son. Plus his day job. We spoke on the phone every day for 3 or 4 hours. After a couple of weeks I went down to where he was training for the promotion. He looks like James Taylor back when he had long hair. He's 6'4". Very sweet. I told him he'd be a millionaire as a look a like. He said I was about the millionth person to tell him that. He came up here for a weekend to get to know me and the area. He was pushing pretty hard, but my, little voice kept saying it was too fast. Although, after all of the phone calls and visits we did know a lot about each other. I spent couple of weekends with him. I met his best friend, his son, and his ex wife, who he has a great relationship with. Extremely platonic. Then about 4 weeks later , he had to start his new job. I said he could hang at my house until he found a place. Now remember he was the pursuer....full on. I kept thinking about all of my other friends who to this day..3 years later from this story, but some 7 years and got together in a couple of months and are still together and seemingly happy. I figured what the heck. I'd been alone a long time. Why not see what happened? The worst would be I'd be right back where I started. So he'd play his guitar for me and sing almost every evening to me. It was fun. I wouldn't ever wish I didn't try. But after 2 weeks of living here, we went for a walk and I knew what was coming. He finally got up the nerve and told me "He just didn't feel THAT way about me and it wasn't fair to me to keep it going. We had a very emotional, sweet night. He stayed a few more days because I told him he could. Then he said he couldn't do this to me anymore. It wasn't fair. He packed and left. He was miseable for a year. I found out later he had been living in his car for a few weeks until he found a place. I thought he showed character. He could have leached off of me, even though we are just friends, if he wanted too. He came over at lunch to talk. He was very lonely. I took him to a play at the theatre I do some acting and catering at. There are fundraiser shows, I thought he'd be pefect for. I introduced him to my friend, who put them together...writing...producing...directing, etc. It took a year for me to get them to contact each other. He auditioned. He was in. Then my friend called to find out about him. Well, they got married last summer 2 years after I introduced them. Why can't someone do this for me? It was obviously meant to be. Online dating. Very weird. That was my longest. As I've said before. No other one has lasted more than a few e-mails, phone calls and 1 or 2 dates..just because my friends say I need to give them a chance. For me, without chemistry....if the thought of the guy touching me makes me want to hurl.......why waste our time. But I do know it works for a lot of people. One of my friends is on the e-Harmony commercials. She found her 4th husband there. Lisa One more thing. Same thing happened to me 3 years ago. I dropped out of all of the online sites. I was finished. A couple of days later I get an e-mail from a man who seems perfect for me. He was transferring to my town and wanted to meet people before he got here. He was into theatre, like me. He is a musician, actor, singer, composer and has a terrific son. Plus his day job. We spoke on the phone every day for 3 or 4 hours. After a couple of weeks I went down to where he was training for the promotion. He looks like James Taylor back when he had long hair. He’s 6′4″. Very sweet. I told him he’d be a millionaire as a look a like. He said I was about the millionth person to tell him that. He came up here for a weekend to get to know me and the area. He was pushing pretty hard, but my, little voice kept saying it was too fast. Although, after all of the phone calls and visits we did know a lot about each other. I spent couple of weekends with him. I met his best friend, his son, and his ex wife, who he has a great relationship with. Extremely platonic. Then about 4 weeks later , he had to start his new job. I said he could hang at my house until he found a place. Now remember he was the pursuer….full on. I kept thinking about all of my other friends who to this day..3 years later from this story, but some 7 years and got together in a couple of months and are still together and seemingly happy. I figured what the heck. I’d been alone a long time. Why not see what happened? The worst would be I’d be right back where I started. So he’d play his guitar for me and sing almost every evening to me. It was fun. I wouldn’t ever wish I didn’t try. But after 2 weeks of living here, we went for a walk and I knew what was coming. He finally got up the nerve and told me “He just didn’t feel THAT way about me and it wasn’t fair to me to keep it going. We had a very emotional, sweet night. He stayed a few more days because I told him he could. Then he said he couldn’t do this to me anymore. It wasn’t fair. He packed and left. He was miseable for a year. I found out later he had been living in his car for a few weeks until he found a place. I thought he showed character. He could have leached off of me, even though we are just friends, if he wanted too. He came over at lunch to talk. He was very lonely. I took him to a play at the theatre I do some acting and catering at. There are fundraiser shows, I thought he’d be pefect for. I introduced him to my friend, who put them together…writing…producing…directing, etc. It took a year for me to get them to contact each other. He auditioned. He was in. Then my friend called to find out about him. Well, they got married last summer 2 years after I introduced them. Why can’t someone do this for me? It was obviously meant to be. Online dating. Very weird. That was my longest. As I’ve said before. No other one has lasted more than a few e-mails, phone calls and 1 or 2 dates..just because my friends say I need to give them a chance. For me, without chemistry….if the thought of the guy touching me makes me want to hurl…….why waste our time. But I do know it works for a lot of people. One of my friends is on the e-Harmony commercials. She found her 4th husband there.
Lisa

]]> By: Lisa http://susancourtad.com/2008/02/03/so-susan-whatever-happened-with-online-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-855 Lisa Thu, 21 Feb 2008 23:53:23 +0000 http://onewomanshow.wordpress.com/?p=369#comment-855 My ex and I separated 7 years ago after a 20 year marriage and 5 years togetger before that.. For some reason, there were several of us women, suddenly single, and we had a blast. A few of us did some plays, we went out alot together. We all decided to join some online dating sites. We all went out a lot. Within 6 months everyone, except me, were either living with someone, married.....3 actually either moved out of state or the guy did. I thought the world had gone MAD! I figured in a few months most would be Ka-Put. I refriended after a while. It seems once my girls found their guy....between jobs, kids, etc., the place the girls took up were taken up by the man. Same thing. Refriended one more time. It happened again. I thought, " If I hear one more friend tell me about moving in with her new online love or getting married after only 4-6 months, I was going to run screaming naked down the street. Of course, it keeps happening. AND they're all still together and apparently happy. So, I guess it's me. I've been on and off a lot of websites for 7 years. I have a lot of great stories....but no relationships.My friends think I have some incredible material for a book or blog or something. Nothing lasted more than 2 dates. Except one.....he married a friend of mine last summer. We lasted 6 weeks. I don't know what the secret is. I set my 6 weeker up with his current wife after he told me he just didn't "feel it" for me. We have been friends. So, I know it really does work for some people. 7 years......I'm done for awhile, even though I am desperately lonely and horny as hell. I live in a small county full of college girls (3 colleges and several retirement communities and lot's of families, married with kids.) Not a lot of single, middle aged men. I am always happy to hear success stories. It gives me hope. Much luck!!!! Lisa My ex and I separated 7 years ago after a 20 year marriage and 5 years togetger before that.. For some reason, there were several of us women, suddenly single, and we had a blast. A few of us did some plays, we went out alot together. We all decided to join some online dating sites. We all went out a lot. Within 6 months everyone, except me, were either living with someone, married…..3 actually either moved out of state or the guy did. I thought the world had gone MAD! I figured in a few months most would be Ka-Put. I refriended after a while. It seems once my girls found their guy….between jobs, kids, etc., the place the girls took up were taken up by the man. Same thing. Refriended one more time. It happened again. I thought, ” If I hear one more friend tell me about moving in with her new online love or getting married after only 4-6 months, I was going to run screaming naked down the street. Of course, it keeps happening. AND they’re all still together and apparently happy. So, I guess it’s me.
I’ve been on and off a lot of websites for 7 years. I have a lot of great stories….but no relationships.My friends think I have some incredible material for a book or blog or something. Nothing lasted more than 2 dates. Except one…..he married a friend of mine last summer. We lasted 6 weeks. I don’t know what the secret is. I set my 6 weeker up with his current wife after he told me he just didn’t “feel it” for me. We have been friends.
So, I know it really does work for some people. 7 years……I’m done for awhile, even though I am desperately lonely and horny as hell. I live in a small county full of college girls (3 colleges and several retirement communities and lot’s of families, married with kids.) Not a lot of single, middle aged men. I am always happy to hear success stories. It gives me hope. Much luck!!!!
Lisa

]]> By: Just Me http://susancourtad.com/2008/02/03/so-susan-whatever-happened-with-online-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-854 Just Me Wed, 06 Feb 2008 21:59:16 +0000 http://onewomanshow.wordpress.com/?p=369#comment-854 Good luck, Susan! Can't wait to hear how it goes. I'm finding it's a strange new world, being in a new relationship after a 28-year marriage. The world has changed a lot while I was out of circulation! Good luck, Susan! Can’t wait to hear how it goes. I’m finding it’s a strange new world, being in a new relationship after a 28-year marriage. The world has changed a lot while I was out of circulation!

]]> By: Pittsburgh Internet Dating Stories » So, Susan, whatever happened with online dating? http://susancourtad.com/2008/02/03/so-susan-whatever-happened-with-online-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-853 Pittsburgh Internet Dating Stories » So, Susan, whatever happened with online dating? Wed, 06 Feb 2008 13:25:29 +0000 http://onewomanshow.wordpress.com/?p=369#comment-853 [...] Posted by BlueEyes1962 on 06 Feb 2008 at 08:25 am | Tagged as: Happy Endings, Pittsburgh Observations, We Never Got Past Email Susan is a Love Goddess-In-Training - a hopeless romantic with a feisty, feminist edge who aspires to be more than a Take-a-Tylenol-and-Wonder-Why-the-Hell-Dating-Hasn’t-Improved-in-20-Years kind of woman. She ikes her alone time and herself, but darned if she doesn’t keep jumping into the murky waters of online dating, speed dating, and blind dates. We didn’t say she was smart. You can find her adventures on  One-Woman Show - one woman’s tales of juggling life, laundry and love.  Susan agreed to let me reprint her findings on the Pittsburgh on-line dating scene: [...] [...] Posted by BlueEyes1962 on 06 Feb 2008 at 08:25 am | Tagged as: Happy Endings, Pittsburgh Observations, We Never Got Past Email Susan is a Love Goddess-In-Training – a hopeless romantic with a feisty, feminist edge who aspires to be more than a Take-a-Tylenol-and-Wonder-Why-the-Hell-Dating-Hasn’t-Improved-in-20-Years kind of woman. She ikes her alone time and herself, but darned if she doesn’t keep jumping into the murky waters of online dating, speed dating, and blind dates. We didn’t say she was smart. You can find her adventures on  One-Woman Show – one woman’s tales of juggling life, laundry and love.  Susan agreed to let me reprint her findings on the Pittsburgh on-line dating scene: [...]

]]> By: Leandra http://susancourtad.com/2008/02/03/so-susan-whatever-happened-with-online-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-852 Leandra Wed, 06 Feb 2008 02:11:21 +0000 http://onewomanshow.wordpress.com/?p=369#comment-852 THAT is fantastic! Enjoy it. You deserve it. THAT is fantastic! Enjoy it. You deserve it.

]]> By: BlueEyes http://susancourtad.com/2008/02/03/so-susan-whatever-happened-with-online-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-851 BlueEyes Tue, 05 Feb 2008 18:25:48 +0000 http://onewomanshow.wordpress.com/?p=369#comment-851 Susan You might enjoy a site is dedicated to online dating in Pittsburgh - http://pittsburghinternetdating.com/ and I'd love to post your findings on the blog - with full credit/ Let's talk!!! Susan

You might enjoy a site is dedicated to online dating in Pittsburgh – http://pittsburghinternetdating.com/
and I’d love to post your findings on the blog – with full credit/ Let’s talk!!!

]]> By: Lulu http://susancourtad.com/2008/02/03/so-susan-whatever-happened-with-online-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-847 Lulu Tue, 05 Feb 2008 14:55:17 +0000 http://onewomanshow.wordpress.com/?p=369#comment-847 Oooh! That's pretty exciting. Can't wait to hear more! About your distraction...and the giveaways. Oooh! That’s pretty exciting. Can’t wait to hear more! About your distraction…and the giveaways.

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